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04/24/2007
Bored Wife...Not Desperate Housewife
Here recently I've been fairly bored around my house. I've tried knitting, exercise, and immersing myself in to my business and job, however, its not working for me. I think that I need a break - a serious break. A break from continuous cleaning, pulled at my skirts, dirty dishes, and an overall feeling of not being appreciated.
I was thinking of going off to teach english for a couple of months, but then others around me would suffer. Indeed they would because they cannot go. A friend and I were talking about going to see Fantasia on Broadway in The Color Purple... 'til I started adding up that for me to take my daughter it would cost about $1600 for 2 days! Certainly not for the pockets of the working class. Also, if I won the lottery and could afford to go, the fact that I want to go by myself is more appealing. In the time I'm gone I don't want to be mother or wife, I just want to be Latoya.
The idea of boarding a plane and going away for a week to revitalize and rethink sounds appetizing. I'm dreaming up a massage or 3, along with mornings filled with yoga, knitting, pedicures; me awakening in the midst of a clean room on the best mattress with magazine-perfect comforters in yellow, taking a shower and truly feeling refreshed, and great conversation that makes me wanting more.
On the more adventurous side I'm thinking more like the Great American Race, but in my episode I go horseback riding on the beach and gallop for miles! In the afternoon I eat in an open air restaurant, then head back out for a night of salsa dancing. I'd wake up the next morning to some rock climbing, sailing, and paintball shooting.
My ideas: Priceless.
What do you suggest for this funk that I appear to be in?
15:58 Posted in Blog | Permalink | Comments (5) | Email this | Tags: Color Purple, Fantasia, Oprah, working class, yoga, knitting, alone
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I suggest you take me with you!!!
I have not been entirely alone for a 24-hour stretch (or even a 12-hour stretch, come to think of it) in over 7 years. It's time.
I feel your pain. I hope you find a great destination!
Posted by: jessie | 04/25/2007
Try taking your mini-vacation somewhere in driving distance. Pick a decently priced hotel in a nice area. Get a appointment for a massage and just do you for a few days.
You just have to make arrangements for your family to do without for a few days. Arrange for your daughter to stay with a friend, pre-make some meals, and then get in the car and leave . That way if something really pressing happens you can drive back if you have to.
Posted by: Saun | 04/25/2007
I agree with the previous poster ... go away for a day or two. Perhaps a mini-spa? Even a day makes a difference!
Posted by: Dina | 04/30/2007
Goodness, I'm amazed it took this long. You are young, with a lot of responsibilities, and now you are realizing, you are more than just mommie, hon, whatever.
As you are not a single mom, there is no reason why you NOT have a break. Hubbie should help send you. Don't say it is easier said than done. It it easier to for your kids to have an accident, if you are tired, bored and can no longer pay effective attention. Remember, you can't give what you lack!
Now that the lecture is over––stop dreaming and start with a plan. Where would you like to go within 100 miles that you can afford? Look for a sistah-owned bed and breakfast. Sometimes you just need to be in a different place. Make the arrangements. Don't ask for permission from your family––you're a grown woman. Tell them and have the plan ready to field any questions, but don't BUDGE, no matter what they say. And remember, it will be alright!
I'ma email you, to send some travel suggestions. Good luck!
Posted by: sahara | 05/01/2007
I totally second what Sahara said! If you come with a plan already formed, your family will make it happen for you. If there's just no way you can swing an overnight anywhere, at least look into day spa options. You need some alone time and some pampering--now!!
Posted by: Sneaksleep | 05/02/2007
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